Your Dream Psychic

Debbie Gallagher

RARRRRRR!

oOOooh You’ve got it now! Eyes blazing, blood pumping, cheeks flushed, muscles clenched…this blog is for when you’re furious, and who knows what is holding you back from ripping someone’s schooooopid head right off their schoooooopid shoulders. Is it just a little anger that you need to get off your chest? Or is it rage that’s coursing through you?

Many psychics will  tell you to steer clear of anger. Watch every thought! Every feeling! Never let it become negative! Beware thought crime!

Well just this once, I am going to stand up for anger. The problem with anger is that it usually feels unpleasant, whether you’re giving or getting. You can’t ignore it, you daren’t confront it, you feel guilty for causing it and guilty for feeling it. But it has a very powerful positive function.

Your anger tells you when something needs changing. Anger is a foolproof warning signal. It would be great if none of us ever felt angry. Or would it? Suppose we heard about injustice and cruelty  and we didn’t boil with the need to shout or move or change anything?

Anger is courageous and honest. Anger is like petrol, powerful and useful. Like petrol, if you let it spill out of control, it’s dangerous

I simmer like a stew in hell’s kitchen when I’m angry. Touch me, get burned, Ignore me and eventually I’ll take the kitchen with me when I go boom. It takes every ounce of discipline, humour and pride to turn the heat off my anger. And here I am, a so-called spiritual person! Sometimes I get angry with myself for getting angry, how silly is that?

Thankfully spiritual healing is very much a part of a psychic’s world.

So, let’s talk about this difficult subject. What makes you angry? Are you silent or stinging, do you lash out with harsh words or do you suppress it, do you ooze it out in passive aggression and feel like you’re a martyr or a victim? How do you let it go?  Psychics are not called upon to judge. Whatever the situation, let’s talk. Anger, as the Sex Pistols screamed at us long ago, is an energy. Let’s talk about how to use, diffuse, and not abuse it.

Copyright Debbie Gallagher 2009

Lynn Lait

Personal relationships always seem to be the first priority for many of us. Perhaps you are always searching for love. Hunting for love doesn’t bring the right partner because the reasons for wanting love are unclear, We think – “Oh, if I only had someone who loved me, my life would be all better.” That’s not the way it works.

One exercise to do is to write down what you want from a relationship, such as fun, intimacy, open and positive communication etc. etc. Are these standards impossible to fulfill – which of these can you supply yourself ?

There’s a big difference between the need for love, and being needy for love. When you are needy for love, it simply means that you are missing love and approval from the most important person you know – yourself. You become involved in relationships that are codependent and ineffectual for both partners.

When we need someone else to fulfill us, we are codependent. When we rely on someone to take care of us, so we don’t have to do it ourselves, we become codependent.

If you are always telling the other person what to do, then you are probably trying to manipulate the relationship. On the other hand, if you are working to change your own inner patterns, then you are allowing things to happen in their right course.

Remember when you are able to contribute to the fulfillment of your own needs, then you will not be so needy, so codependent.

It all begins with how much you love yourself. When you truly love yourself, you stay centred, calm and secure, and your relationships at home as well as at work are wonderful. You will find yourself reacting to various situations and people differently. Matters that once may have been desperately important won’t be quite as important anymore. New people will enter your life, and perhaps some old ones will disappear, which can be scary at first, and also wonderful, refreshing and exciting.

Once you know what you want in a relationship, you must go out and be with people. No one is going to suddenly appear on your doorstep.

A good way to meet people is in a support group or a night class. It enables you to connect with people who are like-minded or who are involved in the same interests. It’s amazing how quickly you can meet new friends. There are many groups and classes available in major cities. You need to seek these groups out. It helps when you associate with people who are travelling a similar path.

An affirmation you could use is “I am open and receptive to wonderful and good experiences coming into my life”.
It’s better than saying “I’m looking for a new lover”. Be open and receptive, and the Universe will respond for your highest good.

You will fnd that as self-love grows, so will your self-respect, and any changes that you find yourself needing to make will be easier to accomplish when you know that they are the right ones for you. Love is never outside yourself – it is always within you. As you become more loving, you will become more lovable.

Love and Light

Lynn Lait