Beliefs
Whenever we experience anything our emotional reactions are analysed and gradually built into a belief system. We walk away thinking over the experience and assess what the reasons were for the positive and negative parts of it. This often serves us well because we can often prevent negatives from happening again. More often that not when we experience too much negativity of a sudden bought of it our analysis of the event is quick and irrational and can create a false belief that does not serve in the long run.
For example:
“A lady goes out with some friends and starts to have some drinks and have a good time. A group of guys eventually come over to them and they all start having a good time. She has to go to the toilet and when she comes back she notices the guy that was talking to her is now talking to one of her friends and he seems to be laughing and flirting much more than when he was talking to her. She feels insecure and quickly scans for possible reasons for him to be having more fun with her friend. She notices that her friend is wearing more provocative clothing than her and assumes that the man is obviously more interested in her because of how she looks. When she gets back to the group the man does turn round and talk to her again and she responds but after a short while he is eventually drawn back to talking to her friend. The night ends and she is left feeling rejected believing that unless she wears provocative clothing the same thing will happen next time.”
In the above example she doesn’t take into account the conversation that the group were having, the personal rapport that was going between the man and her friend or any number of other possible reasons for the change in his behaviour. She also thinks the man didn’t talk to her when she came back because of her friend but this was most probably due to her mood changing. If this belief is not dealt with soon it will become deeply rooted in her psychology and start to warp her social behaviour and appearance away from that which is natural. Being our natural self is us being our most beautiful any diversion away from this lowers our attractiveness. Beliefs are the core driver behind everything we do and if there are some that are stopping you from being your true self then they need to be destroyed.
Destroying corrupted beliefs will require the person to engage in the exact same situation again without playing out the counter measures the belief demands. The woman above would need to not wear provocative clothing for example. Deep rooted beliefs can become very comfortable and it will feel awkward to release them and many judge the awkward feeling as a sign that their initial belief was right. Resisting this reaction is very important because eventually through repetition the old belief will die and you will be closer to your true self and therefore more beautiful.
Let me look into your core beliefs today and see if I can see any that don’t serve you and put a plan into action to get your beauty back.
Adam Leonard
Adam Leonard
Morning Adam,I’ll refrain from calling you Adama,that’s Lotties priviledge,:-)
Doesn’t our subconscious play havoc with the conscience at times ! You go out looking and feeling like a million dollars,then that little devil in you starts looking around and whispering, before you know where you are you are feeling insecure/ugly/out of date/stupid etc etc,you’re NOT any of these things but you listened to that little voice and doubted you’re own worth and beauty.
Negative self beliefs can and do have a destructive and harmful effect on any individual,
Everyone is beautiful in their own right,so next time that little devil tries to persuade you otherwise,tell it “go take a hike because I know I’m beautiful”
love and light
Linda
xx
Good morning to Lottie and the crew, fab as always